As I mentioned in the About Page, what prompted the entire blog was God ending some seasonal relationships back in 2014. Back then it seemed like so much was happening, but it was all to get me closer to God. In February of 2014, I was broken, this is when I sought God for a way to communicate with Him and I wrote my first “Dear God,” letter. The great thing about God is that He wants us to take ALL our concerns to Him; He loves us that much (1 Peter 5:7). So, that is what I did, I began to tell God all that was bothering me. I was tired of being hurt in relationships, tired of friends not being real friends, and tired of drama! It was so draining. This led to me asking God a serious question, “Is it me?” When I thought about everything that was going on, the common denominator was me and all these questions began to start rushing. Why did I keep selecting the same type of guys? Or picking bad friends? Why did I allow people to treat me in a certain type of way? Do I need to change something within myself? What is lacking in me? God answered me as clear as day and said, “You’re not whole yet.”
“Getting “whole“
– Diamond Melvin
in God is not
easy, but it is so
WORTH IT.”
..I was taken aback as soon as I got the response, so I immediately looked up the definition of ‘whole’. Whole means, “to be free of wound or injury (UNHURT), recovered from a wound or injury (RESTORED), being healed, in an unbroken or undamaged state in one piece“. I realized that I was the total opposite of this definition. I was all over the place, broken damaged, and everything in between. Then I asked God, “How do I get whole?” He did not respond immediately however, the next day one of my aunts gave me this book by Dr. Myles Munroe, “Single, Married, Separated, and Life After Divorce“. This book changed my life (please look it up when you get a chance)! The first few chapters talked about the importance of singleness and being whole in God before entering into any type of relationship. Within the first chapter, Dr. Myles Munroe introduces a concept called “The Myth of Singleness”, the myth is that we as individuals have confused the difference between singleness and being alone. As he quotes, “Singleness means to be separate, unique and whole.” Dr. Monroe further explains that as Christians, this is what we should strive for, to be separate, unique, and whole in God! Any type of relationship, friendship, etc. takes everyone being a whole individual giving their complete 100%. I cannot come into any relationship giving 50% and expect someone else to fill my other 50%. God has not called us to be alone (hence, Genesis 2:18). “The word “alone” means, “to be isolated, lonely, or solitary.” Finally, Dr. Monroe uses a great example to explain God’s view on singleness, he uses a key ring that has a bunch of keys. He says, “If you have one get it out and look at it, each key is unique, separate, and whole, yet all of the keys are joined by a common ring. The keys are single, but not alone, thus it is possible to be single and not alone. God did not say it was not good for man to be unique, separate, and WHOLE.” This is also just like the human body, every body part in our body has it’s function; the ankle cannot function as the arm does. Each body part has its own unique, separate, and whole function.
Getting “whole” in God is not easy, but it is so WORTH IT. It is a lifelong journey, a decision you will have to strive to make every day on your Christian journey. It requires a bunch of forgiveness, being honest with yourself and allowing God to transform you from the inside out. Being whole in God, in my opinion, means to be so wrapped up in Him and no longer trying to fill an empty void with distractions, but instead allowing Him to fill that “God-sized void“! Choosing God to have control over my life has allowed me to forgive people that have hurt me and to no longer be triggered by Satan’s tactics that he tries to use to put me back in a place that God has delivered me from. I can now treat my enemies like my friends (Hebrews 1:13). I no longer long for attention (because back in 2014 I was that girl that loved the attention; I was the girl that if you slid into my DM’s no matter what time I would answer. No more of that! DM’s turned into just getting email notifications and that was fine, that meant no drama, just peace). I just keep praying, fasting, and studying my Word; staying obedient, and vigilant. The more I get whole in God, my prayers and the desires of my heart keep getting answered (Psalms 37:4-6).
Therefore, sometimes we must realize that we need to check ourselves (Lamentations 3:40). Not all of our conflict is a one-man show (there’s not always someone else to blame). There may be some things within yourself that need healing. We cannot be much to anyone until our “self” is right first, in other words,
check yourself.
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